Random Advice...

Since this week’s blog can be about anything, I am going to write about why boys think girls are so complicated when really it is the boy that is complicated. This blog is not about me personally, it is just observations I have experienced or witnessed over the years. Do not get me wrong…girls are complicated too but boys make it that way.

For starters, boys do not listen. How many times have you experienced saying something to a boy and ten minutes later he says something completely different. This makes girls angry and that causes boys to think girls are complicated when really it was the guy. They thought one thing and got confused because they did not hear the girl say something else. When a boy actually listens to a girl he is a keeper…whether it is a friendship or a relationship. Yes, I admitted girls do not listen all the time but that causes girls to think boys are confusing. When two people like each other enough, I believe they will listen to each other because they want to please each other and not fight. As the famous phrase goes “communication is the key to any good relationship.” If you cannot say how you truly feel around that person then maybe the relationship is not really working. The significant other in any relationship should be your best friend someone you can talk to about anything and someone that will be there for you in good times and bad. Part of being there is listening to your problems and how you feel. A poster in my orchestra room said “silent and listen have the same letters.” I know that might be a little cheesy but it means something. Another reason boys think girls are complicated is that they do not like to talk about their emotions. Boys have a harder time opening up and talking about how they feel. I do not know why it is, maybe they think they will sound weak. I do not know. This is still along the same lines with communication. If the boy does not tell the girl how she feels then it is harder for her to know how to act in certain situations. In a relationship it takes two to keep it going, if one person decides not talk about it then the other is not sure how to act.

Another reason why boys thinks girls are complicated…I will admit…I do not think girls truly know what they want. Have you ever been in a relationship where at first you thought you liked the guy and then the more you thought about it and realized that maybe you do not. Or have you been in a relationship when you thought you were over the last guy and the more you talk about him you realize you like him more than you thought and feel bad for breaking up with him. Or have you been in a relationship where it was great in the beginning and then at the end all you did was argue. This problem maybe no one’s fault, just that in general we are indecisive people. That does not make us complicated because as I stated earlier, communication will keep the boy on the same track.

Another reason that boys think girls are complicated is that they are not on the same page like they thought they were. For example, the boy is getting more attached to the girl, when the girl is not that attached yet. Or the boy is holding on to the relationship when the girl just wants to be friends. Or the boy does not feel the same way for the girl and does not understand why the girl gets mad when she finds out after they did something.

Relationships in general are complicated, any type of relationship. Best friends can be complicated because how many times has your best guy friend ended up like you? Those are always the hardest and it is a tossup whether they will turn out okay or very badly. I have learned with anything and everything that “time heals all things.” This does not only happen with best friends. Sometimes one person will not admit they have a crush on the other and this leads to nothing happening with hurt feelings. That, however, is better than telling someone you like them and go ahead and try the relationship when really deep down they are not ready for a relationship. That means it is going to explode in their face. That is like a rocket getting ready to launch.

Another reason boys think girls are complicated is some boys literally go from one girl to the next. Yes, girls can do it too. When the girl finds out that the boy just moved on that quickly the girl gets hurt and so she expresses her anger. The boy is probably thinking why is she so mad we just broke up we are both single and free to date whoever we want. This, however, maybe the case but make sure you give it time. Rebounds do happen and they can end very badly. It is harder now to know when two people break up because sometimes it was never really official so the girl may think they broke up a different time the boy thinks they broke up.

I understand that both boys and girls are reading this and that everyone is going to have a different opinion. Relationships in general are hard to categorize because so many different aspects are in the relationships that make it work. One type of relationship might work for someone and might not work for someone else. Boys if you have wondered why you thought girls were so complicated…do not just look at the girl (I admit girls are complicated). Maybe the boy did something too that made the relationship seem complicated. Overall, both just be level headed and listen to each other. If you take the time to listen to each other, you are taking the time to show each other you care.